Sunday, September 18, 2016

Happy Sunday.


I hope Sunday is able to be a day of rest for you, like it is for me. Sometimes I have church meetings & sometimes its my only full day off, but it feels like 3 days off for me.
On Sundays I attend church from 10am - 1pm and then I rest. I nap. I spend time with my family or Justin's family, eating dinner and playing games. 

Relax this Sunday. &while you're relaxing, enjoy these fun finds: 

Is this the coolest invention for pregnant woman, or the strangest

Why do dog videos melt my heart into a puddle? 

Remembering your friend's sad anniversaries

Becoming friendly & overcoming worry (a huge feat for me). 

Irrational fears. We all have them. They made them into comics


Number one item you need for houseguests. Dying over the truth in this. 

Bumbling & Tindering? Here's some help

I love this ideas for decorating a small bathroom


Every time I need a song that calms me down, I listen to this. Totally Sunday approved;) 


Xo Kels 

Saturday, September 17, 2016

Rejection


Rejection. 
I could write a book (probably a book series) on what I have learned in my short 24 years on relationships, love, respect, and heartbreak. None of which I have ever been an open book about. But all of these things are a part of real life. So today I'm talking REJECTION. A few things I have learned (usually the hard way) , 

1. No one is everyone's type. 
I hope that you read that twice. And then one more time. Not one person on this earth is the "epitome of beauty". I have a tall guy friend who will only date girls 5'10 & up. I have a girl friend who won't date guys OVER 5'9. Some men like curvy girls. Some women like brown hair. I had a guy friend who was taking a beautiful girl out who was acting arrogant. He told me "I think she thought she was the perfect woman because she was a tall blonde, but guess what, I like short brunettes." LOL

I am so grateful that I am not everyone's type. When I hear my friends say " He's SO cute" & I look over at a guy who isn't my type AT ALL, it makes me smile. I'm so glad that everyone is beautiful and funny and right for someone. If someone isn't interested in you, I promise you, you are JUST what someone ELSE is looking for. 

2. There is a right way and a wrong way to end a dating relationship. 
Ending a relationship is awful and uncomfortable and no one enjoys it on either side. 
I have learned this lesson the hard way many times.
Before Justin, I had been dating around and been on a few dates with a really quality guy. Everything was there but something wasn't adding up for me and I knew I wasn't reciprocating the same feelings he had been giving to me. I tried to communicate it but failed miserably. I spoke in circles, left the door half open, and really just confused us both. In the end, I couldn't cut the cord and I ended up having to have the same conversation AGAIN and it was even more hurtful to him and more difficult for me. 
Here's the deal. No one wants to SAY it, no one wants to HEAR it. 
But nothing is worse than THINKING there is a chance when there isn't one. Don't do that to someone. 

Let's face it. Chances are at this age, breakups aren't some dramatic thing. We are dating great people who may or may not be the right match for us. &that is okay. 
Do the person a favor and say it how it is. Rip off the bandaid. 
No one wants a fadeout. No one wants false hope. 
Be respectful, but be blunt. 
& remember, no one is everyones type. But everyone is SOMEONES type. 
They will find someone who is their great fit.  &you'll find yours. 

3. Set your standards and stick to them...it will feel like rejection but it will save you. 
One time someone asked me if I had ever been broken up with. I thought & thought about it and I realized I guess I haven't been (old boyfriends, feel free to correct me here LOL).
But heck, I sure have had the PAIN of a breakup and it dang sure FELT like I got dumped.

Sometimes you will be dating someone who won't be able to give you what you need... and when you discover that, it's time to leave. We will ALL spend more time than we should in a relationship at one point in our lives...that is OKAY. Sometimes it's necessary, live & learn is a real thing.

My biggest lesson is finding what I really need from a relationship. I thought I needed a man who was 6'2... I don't. I didn't know that I needed a man who was incredibly tender to me...I do. Ha
I thought I needed a guy who was as outgoing as I am, I don't need that. (The world doesn't need that from me LOL) I had no idea I needed someone who is touchy feely, but I totally do!

If you have something on your heart & you need it, stick to it. People either rise to the occasion for your needs, or they don't. And that's okay! They are still good.
Kindly thank them for their "good" and say goodbye. Then find someone who has the "good" YOU need.

4. You don't know till you know. 
Take risks.
Now men, I totally empathize with you. For Date Club (Next Dating Chronicles will be on this) we had to ask guys out... I almost DIED. It's SO FREAKING SCARY AND HARD.
Like, do they even want to go out with me? Will they say no? If it doesn't work out will it be forever awkward?
Traumatizing.

But you don't know till you know.

I never had a CLUE that Justin was interested. I paid him very little flirtatious attention (all while thinking he was a total babe). I didn't know where he stood so I didn't want to even go there. I am a wussy pants & thank goodness HE risked it!!

What do you have to lose by putting yourself out there? (other than your pride&dignity)
KIDDING!! LOL
You have nothing to lose. If it doesn't work out, refer back to number one.





Dating isn't always easy & rejection isn't ever fun.
But go easy on yourself! No pain lasts forever.
Our worth comes from no opinion here on earth, but from our Heavenly Father who thinks the whole of us.
"I'd rather have a couple ideas fail, than a faith that won't try." 



Xo Kels
Did you read the first Dating Chronicles? Coming next, Date Club. 


Saturday, September 3, 2016

Bye Summer.

I feel like I'm in this phase where all I am doing is hopelessly waiting for fall to come. I'm ready to break out all my sweaters and boots. I have no more summer outfits, I have no more patience for 110 degree weather and I have sweat all of the moisture out of my body. That's all the complaining I have...until it's winter & I'm whining about how cold I am 😹

The sweet sister missionaries came over for lunch. The one on the right is from my boyfriend's families ward and we had eaten with them Monday. I was feeding my sisters Friday for lunch and THERE SHE WAS. They had transfers & she was there for the day. She is the sweetest. After we ate lunch I found out why Heavenly Father put her in my path that day... she had NEVER had an otter pop before... I find that incredibly appalling. All is right with the world now. lol

My friend Jeff came home for two weeks for his dental school summer break. He pretty much made Sarah & I's summer 2015 so he means a lot to us... we were happy to see him trucking along and kicking dental school's butt. We love him. (&he's single ladies...) 

Justin & I went on a double date with Natasha and she ended up really hitting it off with this guy...
I did a "How to be a good double date when you're the couple" tutorial on my snap chat. Tried to upload the video & it didn't work. ( @kelsiestillllls ) Key is, if you're dating someone and you're going on a double date with someone, TONE DOWN THE PDA. I once went on a first date with a guy and we doubled with a recently engaged young couple and they were pretty much making out at the other side of the table. I wanted to DIE. 


Every week my boyfriend cooks an amazing meal ( He went to culinary school in France for 3 years, so his cooking is unreal...) He has this white board calendar at his house so I write all of our adventures up to remember what we've been up too. Never want to forget how lucky I am to have this guy. 
That's a wrap August. Xo Kels 

Friday, September 2, 2016

Thank You


Lemony Snicket’s Advice on Writing a Nice Thank-You Note

1. Do not start with the thank you.
2. Start with any other sentence. If you first say, “Thank you for the nice sweater,” you can’t imagine what to write next. Say, “It was so wonderful to come home from school to find this nice sweater. Thank you for thinking of me on Arbor Day.”
3. Then you’re done.
I recommend learning how to write a very good thank-you note. A child who can write a nice thank-you note can turn into a cocaine dealer five years later and be remembered as the child who wrote nice thank-you notes.