Happy Sunday.

Another week gone. 

Life is flying by! Thanks for checking out my DATE CLUB post. 

Date Club was so fun, I hope it inspires you to take the reins in your own life! 

Enjoy your Sunday, rest & recover for the week! 

&Enjoy these fun internet finds I'm DYING over. 

I need this in my home. I am all about keeping a gun in the home but this make me feels safer. 

Where can I play this !!!?

When I see things like this, I literally am moved to tears. Heavenly Father is quite the artist. 

If you need faith restored in humanity, this boy will do it. 

I NEED THIS NEW VERSION OF NAIL POLISH. 

Words to remember. 

Have a great week. 

Xo Kels 

Date Club.

I feel like it’s been FOREVER since I have wrote! Days turn into weeks so fast around here.

Now I am BACK and I am excited for what is coming on KELSIEISHAPPY.

More dating chronicals of COURSE but some equally fun things are in the works! So stay tuned.

But for today on “The Dating Chronicles”, we are talking DATE CLUB.

Date club happened at the most opportune moment and is seriously too much fun.

Date Club was thought up during a girls night.

We were sitting out on the patio with 6 tubs of Ben&Jerry’s talking about life.

We were all single and we all wanted to go on more dates!! We were SICK of waiting for guys to ask us out and we wanted to plan fun things we wanted to do anyways!

So D A T E C L U B was born.

Date Club is simple.

1. Get a group of girl friends.

2. Choose an activity.

3. Ask a guy to be your date.

4. Have fun.

Now let’s break this down.

1. Get a group of girl friends.

We got all of our single friends together and put a date on the calendar to see who could make it. The point of this was to be very INCLUSIVE. If someone heard about it & wanted to come, THEY WERE IN. The point of this was to START DATING. I think almost every girl I know could use a date, so be inclusive!

NOTE: A group CAN be too big. So limit it from 5-9 girls (remember they are bringing dates).

2. Choose an activity.

We picked things that we WANTED TO DO! First date club we did a Baseball Game (the 51’s). All us girls bought the tickets & brought snacks! Then Bingo, that was my favorite. It was 20 bucks for both of us and we had a BLAST. Next we did TOP GOLF (you can learn more about this under lessons learned LOL). Then the last one we did, we rented a food truck to come to our houses and eat fun food. Honestly any activity is going to be fun. Think small. Don’t overdo it. There were 20 of us on this first date 👇👇👇

3. Ask a guy to be your date.

Have there been any guys who have had your eye? Ask them out.

Most of our girls texted something like,

“Hey! Want to be my date to Date Club?! A big group of us are going to the 51’s game and I’d love you to come with me! You free Thursday?”

Super chill. Number one rule of date club is talk about date club, FOR A REASON.

To make it seems casual and fun…because it is. It isn’t us girls choosing who we think we are going to marry and asking them out. Its us choosing someone fun and then doing something fun WITH someone fun. 

4. Have fun.

The point of this is to have fun. Have fun with your group and be a good date.

This is zero pressure situation. It’s to promote DATING.

(This was BINGO 👇👇👇) 

*  IT’S FREAKING HARD TO ASK A GUY OUT. I literally almost died the first time. MEN, I FINALLY FEEL FOR YOU. LOL It was hard. But once you do it once its like really no big.

I had a guy who was dating someone tell me no. Totally fine.

I had a guy who was busy that night but ended up taking me out a few weeks later.

Remember while your asking, you aren’t asking TO FIND A HUSBAND.

You're asking to have fun. So pick a guy who is fun. Think outside the box.

Who knows, maybe your date is a match for someone else!

*  Don’t go TOO BIG. You guys. We literally had 20 people in a 20 passenger van drive us to Top Golf then we ate at Top Golf and golfed. Then stopped by Mcdonalds before we got home.

It was TOO FREAKING MUCH. It was like prom. All of us girls paid (rule of Date Club) & we at least all dropped 100 bucks, AT LEAST. Never ever again.

The baseball game was better. 10 bucks a person (like I said, we prepaid) & we brought snacks. The guys offered to pay for any snacks at the game. Keep it SIMPLE.

(TOP GOLF date 👇👇👇)

* Once every other month is good enough. We tried to go every two weeks & we ran out of guys FAST. Don't go overboard. 

* This is not a hangout. The point isn’t to have a group activity, we do that all the time. The point is a date. Use the word date. BE a good date. Pay attention and get to know your person.

Don’t invite your best guy friend, that isn’t the point. This is a chance to date & get to know someone new. Find a date, or sit it out.

I really liked this season of the year because I swear I went on more dates in two months than I did in a year. I got to know guys and learn how to be a better date. It put me in situations where I needed to grow and get better at NEW relationship situations.

Our last date club, we had a couple of girls who hadn’t been on a date in a while. 

I had a girl SO NERVOUS to ask a certain guy, and once she did it, she felt SO EMPOWERED! THAT IS THE POINT !!!

So try it. Grab a few girlfriends and get Date Club started. Never know what might happen!

Xo Kels

Don't miss out on the rest of "The Dating Chronicles" series. Opener. Rejection. I thought I'd be married by now. 

Happy Sunday.

It's Sunday & I am home from dinner at Justin's families about to knock out some school & work. I am especially thankful for families today. Justin's & my own. I love family dynamics and dinner time conversation. I love people that are in the thick of it with you and love you anyways. Heavenly Father knew what he was thinking when He made families.
Take a walk through my finds & enjoy your week.

I am so excited for this movie.

Are dogs not the most loving and wonderful blessings? I just cant.

Ways to find out who someone really is. 

A person I knew in high school just lost her mother & my heart deeply aches for her.
You cannot fix the pain, but learn how to help.

I thought I was a Type A personality, but I think I just want to be one.

Last but not least, let's all make a pack to say no more often...

Have a HAPPY WEEK (&write someone a hand written note, people love that.)
Xo Kels

I thought I'd be married by now...

When I was in high school when I decided I was going to be married at 18 & have kids by 20... because that's how it works, right? You just say you want it and it happens.
Let's also note that I wasn't LDS at that time so there was no cultural stigma, I just thought that was what was going to happen for me.

SIDENOTE: Anyone who knew me at 18 is thanking their lucky stars for me that that crazy girl didn't get married. 

This was me on my 18th birthday. 

Oh, bless my heart. 

Now I am 24 & I am not married. I have no children. And that "life" I imagined for myself so clearly in high school didn't happen.  At times, that has devastated me.

Let me preface this post with two things. I realize 24 isn't 94& I don't at all intend to hurt or belittle the feelings of those who have been waiting for marriage longer than I have. Secondly, I don't intend to offend those who DID marry young. What a blessing & a learning experience. This is just my journey. 

About a week ago, I had a profound moment. I have had this specific feeling a handful of times throughout my twenties and I believe they are one of the greatest blessings Heavenly Father gives me.
It was a Friday night. There was a regional YSA activity that happens every year which is widely known to have a pretty good turn out. Usually I attend YSA regional activities in the hopes of meeting some random boy Ive never seen who might possibly be my eternal companion (please don't lie & pretend your going to these things for the soda bar and awkward dancing) BUT since I have my sweet Justin, this year I was going as moral support for my BFF...and for the awkward dancing.
Moving on, we get there at 10:35pm and it ends at 11. We get there & see friends so we enjoy the last 20 minutes.

We get ready to leave and a friend says "dance party..parking lot...now." We decide this parking lot ho-down is not for us and we drive away. Then Sarah looks and me and says "5 minutes?" "Let's do it," I told her. We join our friends and just dance. I had this overwhelming feeling in that moment, here is where you should be.


That moment in that parking lot with 20 of us dancing like fools is valuable to me. It is joy, not hold me over till I'm married joy, but true joy. I have had so many moments of joy. I have gone on beach trips with my best friend and gone on 20 mile bike rides that have almost killed me. I have gone on canoe trips with the best ward EVER (shout out to you, Rasmussen Legere & Edwards) and jumped off 60 foot towers....also that almost killed me. I have have endless late nights laughing with friends, I have eaten more calories at movie theaters than any human should, and sobbed my soul out with my best girls. I have taken road trips. I have gone to Institute classes that have CHANGED ME & made refined me into the type of wife I want to BE. I have grown and changed and become.

Do I want to be married? Do I want to cuddle my husband & play with my kids and take on that part of life ? Absolutely. But is Heavenly Father making life grand in the mean time? YES. 

Look at all that ^^^^^^^ !!!! He really makes it grand. 

I have this day dream imagination of Heavenly Father & I sitting together on this rocking swing on a porch somewhere and just talking life. He says "Kels, being a wife and a mother is going to be the highlight of your life. You will love it. It's gonna be stinking hard...and you know you're emotional so it'll be extra hard somedays for you. But my dear, you will love it." 
"And Kels? You can have that whenever you want. If you want you can have it as soon as possible." 
I imagine me saying "YES! As soon as possible please." 
"But Kels, if you would like, you can wait a little longer, I have a couple things in mind. You'll meet a few good men who will refine you. You will befriend the most quality women and they love you. And boy, you will love them. You will go on endless trips. You will get to eat good food. You will laugh and laugh and laugh. You will become a better woman. You will go to cities you have never been to and you will call it 'work'. You will go to Disneyland A LOT. You will teach Relief Society and effect one person I need to know that I love them. You will be in Relief Society lessons where I can remind YOU Kels, that I love YOU. You will never be alone. I will be with you every step of the way and then eventually, on My timing, you'll get that husband of yours. You will have lost nothing. You won't have lost time with him, because you'll have him forever. But Kels... you will gain everything. So what would you like to do my love?" 



You guys, I am taking that daydream straight to the bank. I chose this life, I know it!! I'm not WAITING for a husband day by day, I'm LIVING this life I CHOSE. Isn't it funny how we spend so much time imagining this dream situation & when it doesn't happen (which things rarely happen just as we've imagined) its so disappointing! But I swear, I had to have chosen this. Because there is no way in HELL I could give up anything I've gained. I wouldn't...I couldn't.
Because life is good.



Xo Kels
Did you read about Rejection?

Dear Kiddos, 

Not being married in a world where it seems as though EVERYONE is getting married is hard. Some days it will consume you. Some days will be dark. You may cry and you may even be like your dramatic mother & ask "Why not me? It's a righteous desire, come on Lord, why not me?" But you are closer to your Father in Heaven than you think. You are doing this journey t o g e t h e r. You think He would waste your time or steer you wrong? No chance. 

What is He blessing you with now? What are you learning, and are you missing the lesson? 

Don't let the fear of the future ruin all the good that is happening right NOW. 

You chose this. And your choice was good.

Love, Mom.